Safety - Danger
Distanced - Close
Frictionless - Friction
Disconnected - Connected
Formal - Informal
Smooth - Rough
Efficient - Inefficient
Ideal - Real
Ideals can only exist in the sky, at a safe and comfortable distance from the earth.
Sidney Jourard, a University of Florida psychologist, visited cafés in different parts of the world and recorded the number of times two people who were sharing a coffee touched each other.
In London, the tally was 0; in Gainesville, Florida, 2; in Paris 110; and in San Juan, Puerto Rico, more than 180.
Most sociologists would agree that societies like those in the Mediterranean countries (Spain, France, Italy, Greece, Turkey, Egypt, for example) are contact societies, whereas the more northern societies in countries such as Holland, Great Britain, and the United States are not.
The physician P. N. K. Heylings wrote an article in the British Medical Journal entitled, "The No Touching Epidemic - an English Disease." The symptoms he describes include feelings of loneliness and isolation, doubts about other people's loyalties, feelings of insecurity, emotional inhibitions, unusual reactions both to being inadvertently touched and to touching others, inability to communicate with people standing nearby, and antagonism to massages as a form of therapy.
Other observational studies to determine the effects of touch on public behavior have been conducted in New England. In one study, shoppers were touched by a salesman offering pizza samples. The customers who were touched were more influenced by the salesperson, they liked that person more, and more of them felt the salesperson liked them more.
[Tiffany Field]
Touch, p.22-4
I remember growing up in Romania where if you wanted to make a good friend you would have to make what would now be called a ‘racist’ joke. There were a patchwork of ethnicities in my area and […] the easiest, most succinct way to get on someone’s nerves was to say something about [their race].
There was [an] ease […] and there wasn’t really limits, there wasn’t really the idea of getting into trouble for saying [something offensive].
I feel like now because we’re always trying to have purely consensual, purely don’t-step-on-my-toes relationships, it acts as a buffer between people. You can never really reach out and have those [close relationships].
I’ve always likened this to banter on a construction crew or the military - their lives depend on each other, and they’re not going to be courteous to each other because that’s how you build trust. Because we’re trying to have this really ‘pleasant’ society - you never want to be offensive - but that also keeps you away from [close] relationships. There’s always a layer of keep-away.
[Alex Kaschuta]
‘Patrick Deneen - Liberalism and the Meaning of Freedom’, YouTube
Forgiveness, not tolerance, furnished the proper corrective to the egoism and self-righteousness of groups, Niebuhr argued. "The religious ideal of forgiveness is more profound and more difficult than the rational virtue of tolerance.”
Niebuhr endorsed G. K. Chesterton's observation that tolerance is the attitude of those who do not believe in anything.
Forgiveness, on the other hand, made it possible for contending groups to fight to the death without denying each other’s humanity - “to engage in social struggles with a religious reservation.” Since the sources of social conflict could not be eradicated, it was “more important to preserve the spirit of forgiveness amidst the struggles than to seek islands of neutrality.”
[Christopher Lasch]
The True and Only Heaven, p.375-6
Feminists, seeking to drive power relations out of sex, have set themselves against nature.
Sex is power. Identity is power. In western culture, there are no nonexploitative relationships. Everyone has killed in order to live. Nature’s universal law of creation from destruction operates in mind as in matter. As Freud, Nietzsche’s heir, asserts, identity is conflict. Each generation drives its plow over the bones of the dead.
Like art, sex is fraught with symbols. Family romance means that adult sex is always representation, ritualistic acting out of vanished realities. A perfectly humane eroticism may be impossible.
In western culture, there can never be a purely physical or anxiety-free sexual encounter. Every attraction, every pattern of touch, every orgasm is shaped by psychic shadows.
[Camille Paglia]
Sexual Personae, p.2, 4
G. Wilson Knight remarks, “The Apollonian is the created ideal, forms of visionary beauty that can be seen, sight rather than sound, intellectually clear to us.”
We contemplate the Apollonian from an aesthetic distance. In Dionysian identification, space is collapsed. The eye cannot maintain point of view. Dionysus can’t see the forest for the trees. The wet dream of Dionysian liquidity takes the hard edges off things. Objects and ideas are fuzzy, misty—that mistiness Johnny Mathis sings of in love.
Dionysian empathy is Dionysian dissolution. Sparagmos is sharing, breaking bread or body together. Dionysian identification is fellow feeling, extended or enlarged identity. It passed into Christianity, which tried to separate Dionysian love from Dionysian nature. But as I said, there is no agape or caritas without eros. The continuum of empathy and emotion leads to sex.
Greek theater formalizes the eye-relations of group or polis: it captures and distances Dionysus, binding down nature to be looked at and therefore cleansed.
The rites of Dionysus, as depicted in the Bacchae, were participatory and free-form, to the point of chaos. The conversion of bacchanal into liturgy happened at Athens. The Greek drive for Apollonian conceptualization made program and structure out of the spring fertility festival of Dionysus. Greek theater was an exercise of the eye.
The audience, sitting and looking, was strengthening the cultural suppression of chthonian nature. It was intensifying eye and mind in their war with the body.
[Camille Paglia]
Sexual Personae, p.98, 104
Related posts:-
Maintaining the balance
Ideals can only exist in the sky, at a safe and comfortable distance from the earth.
Sidney Jourard, a University of Florida psychologist, visited cafés in different parts of the world and recorded the number of times two people who were sharing a coffee touched each other.
In London, the tally was 0; in Gainesville, Florida, 2; in Paris 110; and in San Juan, Puerto Rico, more than 180.
Most sociologists would agree that societies like those in the Mediterranean countries (Spain, France, Italy, Greece, Turkey, Egypt, for example) are contact societies, whereas the more northern societies in countries such as Holland, Great Britain, and the United States are not.
The physician P. N. K. Heylings wrote an article in the British Medical Journal entitled, "The No Touching Epidemic - an English Disease." The symptoms he describes include feelings of loneliness and isolation, doubts about other people's loyalties, feelings of insecurity, emotional inhibitions, unusual reactions both to being inadvertently touched and to touching others, inability to communicate with people standing nearby, and antagonism to massages as a form of therapy.
Other observational studies to determine the effects of touch on public behavior have been conducted in New England. In one study, shoppers were touched by a salesman offering pizza samples. The customers who were touched were more influenced by the salesperson, they liked that person more, and more of them felt the salesperson liked them more.
[Tiffany Field]
Touch, p.22-4
I remember growing up in Romania where if you wanted to make a good friend you would have to make what would now be called a ‘racist’ joke. There were a patchwork of ethnicities in my area and […] the easiest, most succinct way to get on someone’s nerves was to say something about [their race].
There was [an] ease […] and there wasn’t really limits, there wasn’t really the idea of getting into trouble for saying [something offensive].
I feel like now because we’re always trying to have purely consensual, purely don’t-step-on-my-toes relationships, it acts as a buffer between people. You can never really reach out and have those [close relationships].
I’ve always likened this to banter on a construction crew or the military - their lives depend on each other, and they’re not going to be courteous to each other because that’s how you build trust. Because we’re trying to have this really ‘pleasant’ society - you never want to be offensive - but that also keeps you away from [close] relationships. There’s always a layer of keep-away.
[Alex Kaschuta]
‘Patrick Deneen - Liberalism and the Meaning of Freedom’, YouTube
Forgiveness, not tolerance, furnished the proper corrective to the egoism and self-righteousness of groups, Niebuhr argued. "The religious ideal of forgiveness is more profound and more difficult than the rational virtue of tolerance.”
Niebuhr endorsed G. K. Chesterton's observation that tolerance is the attitude of those who do not believe in anything.
Forgiveness, on the other hand, made it possible for contending groups to fight to the death without denying each other’s humanity - “to engage in social struggles with a religious reservation.” Since the sources of social conflict could not be eradicated, it was “more important to preserve the spirit of forgiveness amidst the struggles than to seek islands of neutrality.”
[Christopher Lasch]
The True and Only Heaven, p.375-6
Feminists, seeking to drive power relations out of sex, have set themselves against nature.
Sex is power. Identity is power. In western culture, there are no nonexploitative relationships. Everyone has killed in order to live. Nature’s universal law of creation from destruction operates in mind as in matter. As Freud, Nietzsche’s heir, asserts, identity is conflict. Each generation drives its plow over the bones of the dead.
Like art, sex is fraught with symbols. Family romance means that adult sex is always representation, ritualistic acting out of vanished realities. A perfectly humane eroticism may be impossible.
In western culture, there can never be a purely physical or anxiety-free sexual encounter. Every attraction, every pattern of touch, every orgasm is shaped by psychic shadows.
[Camille Paglia]
Sexual Personae, p.2, 4
G. Wilson Knight remarks, “The Apollonian is the created ideal, forms of visionary beauty that can be seen, sight rather than sound, intellectually clear to us.”
We contemplate the Apollonian from an aesthetic distance. In Dionysian identification, space is collapsed. The eye cannot maintain point of view. Dionysus can’t see the forest for the trees. The wet dream of Dionysian liquidity takes the hard edges off things. Objects and ideas are fuzzy, misty—that mistiness Johnny Mathis sings of in love.
Dionysian empathy is Dionysian dissolution. Sparagmos is sharing, breaking bread or body together. Dionysian identification is fellow feeling, extended or enlarged identity. It passed into Christianity, which tried to separate Dionysian love from Dionysian nature. But as I said, there is no agape or caritas without eros. The continuum of empathy and emotion leads to sex.
Greek theater formalizes the eye-relations of group or polis: it captures and distances Dionysus, binding down nature to be looked at and therefore cleansed.
The rites of Dionysus, as depicted in the Bacchae, were participatory and free-form, to the point of chaos. The conversion of bacchanal into liturgy happened at Athens. The Greek drive for Apollonian conceptualization made program and structure out of the spring fertility festival of Dionysus. Greek theater was an exercise of the eye.
The audience, sitting and looking, was strengthening the cultural suppression of chthonian nature. It was intensifying eye and mind in their war with the body.
[Camille Paglia]
Sexual Personae, p.98, 104
Related posts:-
Maintaining the balance